- Respectful vs. Tolerant
- Encouraging vs. Controlling
- Honest vs. Cruel
- Affectionate vs. Clingy
- Protective vs. Possessive
- Serious vs. Interested
“To the mom hiding in her bathroom, needing peace for just one minute, as the tears roll down her cheeks..
To the mom who is so tired she feel likes she can’t function anymore and would do anything to lay down and get the rest she needs…
To the mom sitting in her car, alone, stuffing food in her face because she doesn’t want anyone else to see or know she eats that stuff…
To the mom crying on the couch after she yelled at her kids for something little and is now feeling guilty and like she is unworthy…
To the mom that is trying desperately to put those old jeans on because all she really wants is to look in the mirror and feel good about herself…
To the mom that doesn’t want to leave the house because life is just too much to handle right now…
To the mom that is calling out for pizza again because dinner just didn’t happen the way she wanted it to…
To the mom that feels alone, whether in a room by herself or standing in a crowd…
You are enough.
You are important.
You are worthy.
This is a phase of life for us. This is a really really hard, challenging, crazy phase of life.
In the end it will all be worth it. But for now it’s hard. And it’s hard for so many of us in many different ways. We don’t always talk about it, but it’s hard and it’s not just you.
You are enough.
You are doing your best.
Those little eyes that look up at you – they think you are perfect. They think you are more than enough.
Those little hands that reach out to hold you – they think you are the strongest. They think you can conquer the world.
Those little mouths eating the food you gave them – they think that you are the best because their bellies are full.
Those little hearts that reach out to touch yours – they don’t want anything more. They just want you.
Because you are enough. You are more than enough, mama.
You. Are. Amazing.”
Your good times are temporary and your bad times are temporary. So when you’re up, enjoy it, bask in it, and be grateful for it. And when you’re down, know you will get through it. Know that it’s not the end and that it’s just a rough patch. Life is full of twists and turns, ups and downs, and surprises.
We forget that it’s about the journey, not the destination.
Recognizing the full worth of your hardships and your blunders is key to appreciating the journey. It’s just as important to stay humble and be grateful for the joys life brings you.
Everything is temporary, so make the most out of all of it.
My letter to you~
I don’t even know where to begin or what to say. I have been contemplating writing this letter now for 3 days of or if I should just walk away and not say anything at all, but I know it’s tearing me up and I know I won’t get the proper closure if I don’t say anything and I just can’t deal with the tears anymore. Do I tell you how hurt I am? Or how I feel betrayed, or lost? I guess this letter will be a random of thoughts that I hope you can follow and understand. I have always been real with you where I am in life and how I feel and I wish I can say the same about you, but right now I am just at a loss and feel that all those words you said of love, forever and marriage was just some lie.
You see since we stopped talking in April I kept telling myself he’s busy with work, he’s keeping himself busy because in August he’s coming to me and we can finally work on us, start our life and get married as we talked about! So as the days passed I focused on school, I got no phone calls, no letters and yet I still made excuses for you, he’s working, focusing on him, getting ready for us.
Every day I would reread things between us, look at your pictures and every day I prayed to God that you were ok, and prayed that Gods plan will finally bring you back to me. Until a few days ago when I watched my life crumble before my eyes, seeing a picture of you and some girl, of course, I wanted to see who this woman was that captured your interest, I was saddened to see that she posted the picture of you on her profile April 25 so I guess that explains a lot to me! I am so hurt that you couldn’t be honest with me again; please explain what I did to you to deserve this? Explain while all I did was be there for you, support you and love you, you found a way again to destroy me. Am I not worthy of you, your love or your honesty, don’t I deserve the truth.
I don’t understand why you couldn’t have written me that just simply said, I met someone, would your honesty of hurt, definitely! But it hurts me more that I found out the way I did, that I wasn’t good enough for the truth! Without communication there is no relationship of any kind, without respect, there is no love, and without trust, there is no reason to continue! Am I right? When love is real it doesn’t lie, cheat, pretend, hurt or make you feel unwanted. It’s supposed to be a cure to all your worries.
I fell so hard for you, I loved you, and you destroyed me, played with my heart and emotions and toyed me, I was so foolish to believe that you cared and loved me like I did for you! I want to be with someone who knows exactly what they have when they have me, not someone who will realize it after they lost me! And someone who loves me truly loves me wouldn’t put themselves in a position to lose me.
I guess it’s my own fault because the more chances I give the more respect I lost. My standards began to get ignored when I let you get comfortable in knowing that another chance will always exist. You depended on that forgiveness, I feel like your backup chick when no one else is around you’ll call me but when they next girl puts her interest in you, I don’t exist. I will no longer be a slave to apologies you should have treated me right the first time. I am not saying you should be afraid to lose me, what I am saying is I am NOT afraid of walking away.
And when your family asks about me and you find yourself thinking back on all our memories, I hope you ache in regret as the truth hits you like a bullet and you find yourself replying: “she loved me more than anyone else in the entire world and I destroyed her.”
The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too… Because in every relationship there comes a point when the damage is too much and no matter how good it once was, the memories can’t sustain you. You have to save yourself knowing all the while it will hurt like hell, because you can’t keep giving someone everything if you get nothing in return.I have always wished you the best, and I truly mean that. I wish you well; I hope you find what you are looking for, and that you can find true happiness.
I Know You Love Her.
If you didn’t, you wouldn’t be with her. But since you’re only a human being with variable emotions, you might be inclined to love her in all the wrong ways.
A healthy, happy relationship can transform into a destructive one if you treat her less than how she deserves to be treated.
Nonetheless, I hope you try to love her right. I hope you cast every ray of awareness upon your love for her. I hope you know that awareness is what keeps a relationship strong.
I want you to remember how she looked when you first laid eyes on her. She was everything you longed for. Be it her beauty, her wild nature, her sense of humor or her independence, there’s something about her you haven’t found in anyone else.
And what floored you the most was her completeness.
If you love her, keep her this way. Keep her beautiful, keep her wild, keep her complete.
While she’s the master of her own fate, I wish you understood that you play a major role in her life. How you treat her determines how she views herself—you can make her shine or make her feel lost. She’s a statue in your hands and she only hopes to be held with vigilance.
If you love her, don’t destroy her.
Know that she was destroyed before and another destruction isn’t what she’s aiming for. If she’s with you, know that she has stepped over her fear and insecurities to be with you. She has stepped over her past and decided to give love another chance. She has entrusted you with the health of this relationship—and with her heart.
Don’t let her down.
You destroy her the moment you think you know her. She’s not a book you will eventually finish. She’s something yet to be discovered—so live every day as if you’re meeting her for the first time.
Be present. Nothing destroys her more than your emotional absence. You can sit with her all day long and not really be there, yet you can be so far away and be completely present.
Stimulate her thoughts, her emotions, her being. Dive into her soul like you’d dive into an ocean.
Know that you’ll wreck her if she ever felt you need her rather than want her. You’ll destroy every inch of her if you only love her when loneliness creeps up on you. Because she seeks your love in all moments, not just when your fears and insecurities strike.
I know that your own past sufferings may have destroyed you. But don’t love her just so she can carry your emotional baggage with you. Don’t love her if you only want her to fix you. Know that she will, with time, without you even knowing.
Her love and existence will heal every part of you. But if you are with her solely to fill the emptiness inside you, she will know—and it will destroy her.
And remember, she doesn’t want to be fixed either. Maybe she opened up to you and told you about her painful past. Perhaps you know the exact number of pieces she was turned into. But she didn’t tell you so you would fix her—she only told you so you can know what she endured and how it made her who she is today.
She wants you to acknowledge that your actions toward her—actions motivated by love, understanding and patience—are what matter.
Don’t treat her like a broken woman. She is complete with all her pieces, even though they may still be scattered everywhere. Embrace them with her—just don’t add to them. Make her see why she went through destructive relationships in the past. Make her realize that she went through the “worst” so she could appreciate the “better” that you are.
If you love her, love her with all her flaws and insecurities. She is as imperfect as you are and she only hopes to share that imperfection with you. She wants to undress her soul in front of you and be utterly herself.
She wants to be the same way with you that she is in the mirror—crazy, wild and free. If you’re not ready to accept her as she is, you will destroy her.
If you love her, build her up because she will be doing the same for you. Know that whatever effort you put in, she will be putting in double.
If you show her the moon, she’ll show you the entire galaxy.
If you take her to a well, she’ll introduce you to the ocean.
If you treat her right, she’ll love you more.
If you love her well, she’ll never forget you.
His Best Friend: What happened?
Boy: She’s just too much for me.
His Best Friend: What makes you say that? What did she do wrong?
Boy: Well, for one… She only cared about her appearance. Always had to look good, always took forever to get dressed! So insecure…
His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she wanted to keep your eyes locked on her? She wanted you to see that you have the prettiest girl under your sleeve and not think otherwise? I see…
Boy: Oh.. Well… She’d often call me or text me asking where I am, who I’m with, telling me not to smoke, not to drink. She’s so clingy!
His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she cares about your well-being? Because she cares about you a lot? And her greatest fear is losing you. I see…
Boy: But… Uhh.. Well, she’d always cry when I say something slightly mean. She can’t handle anything. She’s a crybaby!
His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she has feelings? And because she just wanted to hear you say you love her? I see…
Boy: I.. Well! You know, she’d get jealous easily. I could barely talk to other girls! She’s so annoying! I had to hide it from her so she wouldn’t bitch about it.
His Best Friend: So, you broke her heart because she just wanted you to commit to her? She thought you were faithful, but you lied so she could find out later and hurt even more? She just wanted the guy she loves the most to love only her. I see…
Boy: Well, she…
His Best Friend: You broke up with her because she’s good for you? She just wanted the best for you? She’s broken now because you were selfish. Are you proud?
Boy: I broke her heart… Because I couldn’t see what was happening.. What happened to me?
His Best Friend: You lost the girl that loved you like no one else could. You see? You didn’t want her when all she ever wanted was you. THAT’S what happened.
SOMETIMES we don’t realize we are losing a diamond while collecting stones…
“Guys don’t let her go… she is the only one”…